Ya girl doesn't have money? Is the sex good by any chance?

she wasnt the one stealing, but yeah whenever she doesnt feel like paying she's been known to just shoplift. it pisses me off.

Man she sounds like a keeper.

That's terrible. You should sit her down and give a her a good talking to about it. Because she clearly sucks at shoplifting and needs some advice. Discuss stores which have low or no security, where to look for cameras, how to distract retail assistants, the best way to stash things under clothes, etc. Also have her take up track or parkour, just in case. Good luck in future thefts!

What was she doing out of the kitchen?

...Alright. That was rude.

Where did she get the shoes to go to the store?

...Ok, no more. Promise.

...As long as she was stealing dishsoap, it's ok!

She could be held as an accomplice if the store presses charges and it will go on her record. Just because she wasn't the one stealing, they could say she was helping out by being the lookout. Just like if you're around people who smoke weed... you're around the illegal actvity. Your responsible for the choices you make.

Teenagers...................... oh wait, I'm one

There's got to be people you can talk to about it, even her family. Her friends obviously not so much. Trying to put her friends as the bad influence isn't going to work. If you try and get between her and her friends your going come across as the bad guy, and loose.

If I where you I'd let her know that your getting tired of her childish and illegal behavior. Kids steal stuff when there 12-13, not young adults, and going into college. Let her know if she wants to keep doing illegal activities like stealing your going to reconsider relationship.

im not trying to portray her friends as the bad guys (that's what her mom does), but she knows that they are never up to anything good. But they are her friends, and she cant just quit hanging out w/ them. I've talked to her about shoplifting before, and she used to do it when she was like 14 and 15. Eventually they got busted and she quit. She's done it once since shes been w/ me (for a year and a half), and now this. I'm not gonna break up w/ her, because this isnt a persistent problem. Plus, look at my picture. She's fine as hell! Lol. We're about to get a place together, and if i get a call from her saying she needs to me to post bond for her, she's fucked.

It's something your going to have to consider if it does become a persistent problem.



Secondly that's your other problem right there, and I'm sure she knows it. You think she's incredibly good looking. She probably figures that she can do almost anything and you'll put up with it because you think she's so good looking. I'm sure she would think twice about doing it if she thought you'd have no qualms about leaving her for someone else. I think guys in general need to start looking at relationships from a women's perspective a little more. That they can always do better, and are willing to walk out if the significant other isn't willing to change bad habits. It might sound extreme, but just like women why should guys have to put up with crap in a relationship?

Also another word of advice 1 of my friends gave me, you don't move the girlfriend in with you unless your willing to marry her. I've seen it just a few months ago with another friend. Things go bad, and it's going to be a real hell of a problem to get her out, and break up with her.

I said that thing about her being fine as hell as a joke. I would break up w her if i needed to, and she knows it. And the shoplifting thing isn't going to become a persistent issue. If it does, then yeah i would break up w/ her. But I'm completely confident it wont.

And as far as moving in together, yeah im worried about it. Theres a big difference between spending a ton of time w/ someone and living w/ them. I'm worried that we arent ready to move in together, but we both are planning on going to the same college, and it's across the state.
Thanks for the advice, though.

Seriously... its not that big a deal.
A surprisingly high number of girls that age do stupid stuff like that. More so than guys!
Just dont pay bails or bonds for her and u ́ll b fine.

The girl I'm crazy for got arrested for being drunk and naked across the street from her apt.

As much as I was pissed about it, the actual "crime" was a lot more interesting than shoplifting :P

In this situation, you gotta get 2 beers and jump! woooo!
Get 2 beers and jump
You gotta get 2 beers and jump

Master...**Bows**

dude, i was totally thinking the same thing as i read on.

but on a serious note...

lol

Well if you break up with her the second you're with someone new, ya know she's only gonna steal you from your new girlfriend.
But seriously it could be a problem she has, klepto maybe? (spellin'?)You, like her, have to decide if you need to be around this kind of behavior though. Chances are she'll just give in to her friends the second you even takl to her about it, and you'll be deemed controllin' or something..LOL
Best of luck on this

im not about to break up w/ her. nowhere near. I shouldnt have made it sound like she's a kleptomaniac though. she's not. she quit shoplifting years ago, and it was never a habitual thing. they were just being stupid. she's not a klepto and this isn't a reocurring issue. I was just venting when i posted this, cuz she had never been arrested and she has no common sense. anyway, thanks for the advice and stuff.

Hey, man, no worries. All we are here is an oppinion, it's relaly up to you how things go. It's easy to take things the wrong way on here as well.
Hope it goes over well for ya

I know you got people telling you their advice, but after reading some of your comments after... ehh.... I really hope I don't sound like a psychiatrist or whatever, but I've been told a lot with some advice. Not on here though.



Really, because in relationships, there shouldn't be secrets. People have to come across bad news some day, you can't just NOT tell someone something, especially if it's THAT serious. If you think her friends are bad news, then you have every right to say that. I've been in a long relationship, and my boyfriend literally told me to my face that he hates my friends because of the way they treated me while we hung out together. You have every right to say what you think.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
I've always told her not to allow herself to be put in situations where something like this could happen.

Then, no offense to you or anything, but that's stupid. If she's not going to listen to you and if you told her this more than once and she's not listening to you, then this is a wake up call for a serious face-to-face conversation and tell her things that she's probably not going to enjoy listening to. But you know, if you guys want to be lasting for a long time, you can't just be the person who listens to her and that's how it works, no she too has to listen to you and that's how things work.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
She starts college Monday, and she might lose Hope for this.

Here's a good way for her to meet better friends who make smart choices rather than retarded ones.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
They didn't find anything on my girlfriend, but they did on her friend.

She just better prey that the store doesn't press charges because as someone said this already, she could still be held responsible for the crime as she did assist.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
They've been busted shoplifting before,

That's wake up call number two. Seriously? They've been busted before? Your girlfriend is in a heap of trouble if she continues hanging with this person, whether or not you have the pair to tell her in her face about this person, you need to really let her have it and tell her this person is a horrible person to hang out. If she just shoplifts, who cares, that's still a huge crime and can lead to more bad consequences than being in jail for a few hours.

If you can't face her and tell her that she's making a horrible decision in their lives, good luck dealing with a criminal as a girlfriend.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
Idk why my gf insists on associating w/ people who are so beneath her and can do nothing but drag her down.

Because you blatantly told us that you can't really tell her anything. If no one has told her to her face that her friends are horrible people, then she will keep hanging out with them like BFFs. Okay? Yeah, you need to really stick this to her that she's not hanging with great people.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
she wasnt the one stealing, but yeah whenever she doesnt feel like paying she's been known to just shoplift. it pisses me off.

Common sense, come on. I'm sorry, but that's completely stupid, "oh I have no money for this, I'll just steal it okay?" Come on...

Rastabortionist Wrote:
im not trying to portray her friends as the bad guys (that's what her mom does), but she knows that they are never up to anything good.

Last time I checked, people who are up to no good are usually the bad guys. If she knows that her "friends" are up to no good, then she needs to leave them. I don't care if they're her friends, if they're known to be doing completely stupid, idiotic shit on a daily basis or whatever, then she needs to ditch them and get new friends.

Why? Because the next crime they commit might send them to the slammer for more than just a few hours next time. You never know. If they're known to be bad people, then those you know who are so sweet and nice shouldn't be hanging out with the bad and the ugly.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
But they are her friends, and she cant just quit hanging out w/ them.

Yes she can. I've quit hanging out with certain "friends" of mine because they have been treating me like crap all summer long, so I'm moving away from them. Yeah it's a hard thing to do, but you'll realize it's the right thing.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
I've talked to her about shoplifting before, and she used to do it when she was like 14 and 15. Eventually they got busted and she quit. She's done it once since shes been w/ me (for a year and a half), and now this. I'm not gonna break up w/ her, because this isnt a persistent problem.

This paragraph right here doesn't make sense. You said that you've talked with her about this issue yet you claim that this isn't a persistent problem... Um... if you have to talk about this with her and come onto this site and complain about it, seems like it is a recurring problem, mate.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
We're about to get a place together, and if i get a call from her saying she needs to me to post bond for her, she's fucked.

Then this problem needs to be corrected before doing anything, otherwise you should seriously reconsider being with her. I know you just stated that you're not going to break up with her because of this issue, but it seems like a recurring issue that if it persists, you should really reconsider living with a criminal. And I know I sound harsh, but this is a serious issue that needs to get corrected otherwise you're just asking for trouble.

Rastabortionist Wrote:
And as far as moving in together, yeah im worried about it. Theres a big difference between spending a ton of time w/ someone and living w/ them. I'm worried that we arent ready to move in together, but we both are planning on going to the same college, and it's across the state.

I somewhat "lived" together with my boyfriend at the college we went to last year and believed me it frightened the two of us becuase this was just something that was new to the two of us. We had to take a semi-break because we were just seeing each other way too much for a 6-month relationship. (This might sound stupid, but believe me, we weren't even seeing our other friends, we lost contact with a heck of a lot of people because we just spent so much time together, it was literally like we were married)

So what happens now? The two of us are going to two separate colleges like 20 minutes away from each other and we're planning to see each other maybe once or twice during the weekdays and then spending the entire weekends together. We both said that we're not remotely ready to live with each other just yet after the mess with our first experience.

Just because you're heading to the same college together doesn't mean you're ready to live with each other. One slight of butterflies in the tummy means that there's no way you can live with each other. And it's not just living with your gf/bf, it's also living with your roommate... You don't always and I mean 99.9% of the time you don't always get along with your roommate.

That's just my advice if you wanted it... Despite that it's 3 days since this incident occurred.

hey, thanks for taking the time to give all that advice. As I said before though, I made it sound worse than it is.

For one, when i said i cant tell her anything, i meant she thinks she knows everything. It's very hard for her to take advice. She is told all the time (i mean constantly) that her friends are horrible. The shoplifting was only going on when she and 2 of her friends were younger. They got busted once and quit. She isn't known for just shoplifting whenever she sees something she wants. She's only done it once w/ me, and it was a pair of spanx that she wanted for prom that cost over 20 dollars. She didnt have the money, and that was a ridiculous price.

Also, she didnt assist in the shoplifting the other day. She only knew about it.
Thanks for the advice though, especially about moving in together.

No problem!!!!

That truly blows, bro. I hope everything turned out okay. Maybe college will keep her distracted from her friends.

I <3 you torchia

BOOMBOOM!!!! ITS BEEN SO LONG!!! WTF!!!

wait that was off topic.

your girlfriends sneaky, bro. dump her.