Take it from one who knows: Someone once told me that you never 'get over it' - you learn to live with it. Those words gave me a pretty good perspective on my grief and coming to terms with the eventuality of it fading, when the thought of it fading seemed wrong, when it hurt so much I couldn't conceive of a time when it'd stop. One day, you just realize you're okay and you've started healing. You're coping. And you never see it coming.

Your perspective on this is understandable, and I would have felt the same had I read something like that shortly after my father passed.

My commiserations and condolences for your loss. Holler at me if you wanna talk about it or anything.

What Shad said. I lost my dad last year too, ironically on Good Friday. Even though it's been almost a year, it's still hard to believe he's gone. Just gotta cope any way you can, I guess. My condolences.

So sorry to hear that Baraka. I can't even imagine the feeling, and won't even try to relate. The closest I've come to true loss and taking it in such a hard way, was my grandma being diagnosed with cancer and then dying 2 feet away from me as my great grandma cried into my chest. It was quite sad and depressing. But that can't even compare to the bond you have with your parents. I wish you the best, and only hope you find peace and coping in time.

The thing is, we all make mistakes, we all have moments where we think we're doing something to prove a greater point and whether we do or not in the end, theres a chance we make an ass out of ourselves in the process by our actions and more importantly, there are times when we all say stupid shit we may or may not end up regretting. This, for him, was probably one of those times. It's a hell of a lot easier to forgive someone than to hold a grudge. It's much healthier too. We're all human beings here and we've all had that one moment where we slipped and fucked up. As long as we're not talking about rape or murder, I think we all deserve some sort of forgiveness.

As for your father, I am sorry about your loss. Completely off topic and never said a word of this here as I try to keep my posts strictly MK related but since you posted... I haven't lost my father yet but he is currently battling Pancreatic cancer and God knows how many weeks or months he has left. You mentioned it was unexpected and it sucks either way and I won't press the issue of asking any sort of details under the fact it's highly inappropriate but I am literally just counting the unknown number of days me and my father have left until he leaves me and my family behind for, hopefully, a better place. So whether you know a parent is going to die or whether they die unexpectedly, I know it sucks and again, I am sorry for your loss.

Ultimately, my point is this; we all make mistakes in his case and in yours just know you are not alone. This is more than a forum, it's a community.

Shad, Spider, BC, KM16, thank you all a lot. I really appreciate your condolences as well as your perspectives. My sincerest well-wishes to Shad and Spider for the loss of their fathers as well as BC for the loss of his grandma.

I want you to know that my original post, believe it or not, didn't come from a place of anger or rage. More like extreme sadness that I saw that when I did. Just bad timing, I guess.

Believe me when I say that I fully understand the extent to which I brought my own baggage to what I was reading. I know he certainly wasn't trying to offend me (of course). I just wish that, in an ideal world, maybe he'd have thought that through a bit more. But like KM said, we all make mistakes and I'm not looking to put anyone down.

KenshiMaster16, I'm so very sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. It's a terrible thing, and I wish you and your family nothing less than the best. If you ever want to talk, please know that I'm here. That goes for any of you guys, really.

My lady and I were two days away from going to visit my folks for Christmas when I got a text, followed by a call from my mom, a call from a doctor, another text and finally the call. Within a half hour he was gone from my life with zero warning. Massive heart attack. Cremated before we could even get there, so I never saw him again. We had the service, then later that same day we "did Christmas" and exchanged gifts. It was surreal to say the least.

So yeah, like I said, I brought my own baggage to what he said. Sorry to derail the topic. Like I said, I really felt compelled to say something for some reason. Maybe it was his belief that this forum is dying? This is one if my favorite sites with some of the best people that I've had the privilege of talking about my favorite series, so I hope that it continues on for a long time.

Wow its nice to see a community be there for each other like this, especially when I don't think most of you guys/girls no each other personally. That's really awesome.

I am sorry for all of you guys' losses and wish you all the best! I am sure something like that is insanely hard and saddening.

Thanks Blade! There are some really awesome people here, for sure. As negative as it can seem at times, I think that the quality people always tend to shine through.

Anytime man :) And I agree, there seems to be a lot of genuinely nice people here, which is contrary to what I was expecting when I first joined lol