ive wanted to give up many times... i used to have severe anxiety and i couldnt stand to go out in public or be away from home much, it was horrible and i couldnt stand anything violent because of images in my head, it was a living a nightmare... but i overcame it after stuggling with it for 6 years...

btw, awesome avator...

I've been struggling non-stop for the past 6 years, not just emotionally but spiritually as well. I just don't know, it doesn't seem like I should even try anymore, because things seem to always be getting worse.

cheer up emo kid. things will turn around for you.. just keep your head up.. everyone has a story.. lifes not easy.. but dont ever give up or start to.. then things only get worse

I think there's a difference between being a crybaby and when life events affect a person emotionally.

Just to be honest I find it hard to relate, I've never really grieved very long at a family member's death, maybe a day or so. But I've certainly had my rutty times.

I would advise two things:

1) If you are serious about your feelings of suicide then talk to a therapist. Its not a pussy thing to do. This will allow you to have an outlet to your feelings and emotions and you will recieve some guidance in things like financial situations and your family grief.

2) Do not get a girlfriend out of a need of companionship. These are more or less called codependent relationships (a relationship out of a need of functionality) and they will hurt you more than help you. You would be better off establishing a friendship with one or more women for company needs.

my bad dude, i didnt read all of ur first post and i thought u was just asking a straight forward question in ur thread topic...

as for advice the best i can give u is go with whats been given to u and use it to ur advantage, make the best of life and learn to cope with that u have lost because all can be gained back in the end through means...

Just so you know, I'm not even contemplating suicide, I would never commit suicide. Like they say, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I had a friend commit suicide and I know that it's just not worth it, it just causes more grief, and who knows what he might have accomplished if he would have never taken his life.

as for advice the best i can give u is go with whats been given to u and use it to ur advantage, make the best of life and learn to cope with that u have lost because all can be gained back in the end through means...

nice...

Sweetie you just gotta hang in there. My Mom passed away last year, so I know how much a really close death can bring you down. Do you have any other siblings or cousins around your age? If so, you should really confide in them. Family can be the best medicine in times like that.

linkinparkfreak Wrote: Just so you know, I'm not even contemplating suicide, I would never commit suicide. Like they say, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I had a friend commit suicide and I know that it's just not worth it, it just causes more grief, and who knows what he might have accomplished if he would have never taken his life.

Alright, even if suicide is not an option talking to a therapist or grief counselor would still benefit you a lot, mostly as a means of managing emotions

I have plenty of family, and I do confide in them, but it still hurts, and I still have trouble coping with it. Sometimes I will literally just start crying out of nowhere, when I'm thinking about my brother and grandfather. I just wish things would start lookin up soon, I need a change and I need it soon.

Well, guys all I can say is thankyou for the advice so far, and if you have anymore please keep posting it, because I will gladly read and think about all of it.

Sounds like things have been rough. I have had a rough life myself. Yeah, lots of times I thought of giving up. I wish I had better advice than I do, all I can say is things are better for me, but I've seen enough shit in my life and in others to know that sometimes, life is against you.

I understand completely where you're coming from. Anybody who thinks you're a crybaby is probably some pampered asshole who has no idea what pain really is.

For illogical reasons, voices of society will tell you that asking for help is a sign of weakness. But life can be devastating, and if you try to face it alone, it may just destroy you. Just don't ever think that no one is out there. In both this community and in real life, there is always somewhere there willing to listen. Me being one of those people.

Believe me, when this is all over, you're mind, faith, and emotional fortitude will be much stronger.

I know exactly how ya feel man, and i've came more than close to giving up.

Tons of my good friends died from gang voilence, them being the innocents. One of my really good friends died in my arms at a pheonix, he got stabbed and slashed up. Then there was my other boy Derek who got robbed, beat up, and then shot.

I've lost alot of family members to. My great grandma died of a heart attack and my great grandpa died of old age. One of my cousins got hijacked and shot in his own car. A couple of gangsters finished robbing and store and they used his vehicle as the get away vehicle. They shot him because he was aparantly going to "slow" on traffic. I mean, why my cousin? *sigh* some people are just at the wrong place at the wrong time.......and my cousin was one of those people.

My other cousin Narad drownd at a beach on his OWN birthday. That day everything was going awesome, everyone was partying, drinking, blasting music, and having fun. The beach was just awesome and had a great look to it. Me and everyone else rushed in the beach including my cousin Narad. Unforunately he couldnt swim.........and he ended up crossing the line and going into the deep end. He thought if he crossed the line he wouldnt sink right away, but it looks like he did. I realized that some grounds on the beaches tend to go straight and when you'd never expect it, it just goes straight downwards. Anyways me and Narad were pretty far apart in the beach. When we didnt see him above the water we knew something was wrong.......because we all knew he couldnt swim. Fear striked me and EVERYONES heart, and i rushed as fast as i could to try and save him. It was to late, he drownd. His mom has suffered several nervous and emotional breakdowns and severe stress problems. I'll never ever forget that day in my life, it was just tragic. Narad was everything to me.

And then one of my uncles died from a car accident. The thing is, he didnt cause the accident. An asshole on the highway was fooling around going like 180 without his head-lights on. He couldnt see and crashed with my uncles car. My uncle died in the hospital.

Growing up in elementary school has been extremely harsh for me. Always getting bullied and picked on, and who could forget getting teased and makin fun of? Kintagarden up to grade 5 this has happened.

One of the biggest things i'll never ever, EVER forget is when i caught my girlfriend, the girl i loved the MOST having sex with my best friend. I just couldnt believe it, i couldnt, and i didnt wanna believe it........but it happened so i had to believe it. I'll never forget that, and thats one of the things i still think of up to this late. Its a nightmare come true.

So ya man, i know how you feel. Life is hard. I constantly get told "you have to move on" and "life goes on".......obviously, but its not that easy. I've had a tough life.

Just hold on, that's the best advice I can give you. It kind of sounds like you're depressed. Being depressed is not a good thing at all. Just hold on, and look for hope. If you ever wanna talk on AIM, PM me. Life sucks sometimes, but it gets better if you hold on, and strive for perseverance.

GoddessOfLight Wrote: Sweetie you just gotta hang in there.

Is that a good thing to tell someone who's really depresed?




NM, Im just stupid

I completly understand.when ever I feel like giving up I go to this site.Its made my life alot better.Be strong.Good is comin'.It always does.