When something is bothering me I tend to bury myself in some-sort of busywork. Any kind really, be it cleaning, rearranging the furniture, doing yard work , building something, or even skilling in an MMO. Try to channel it into something. Since you seem to work pretty hard, you may want to try something that doesn't seem like work. Maybe model building or perhaps ask your girlfriend for a few pointers in art; something to occupy your thoughts that seems fun.

If that isn't something that would work for you, my older brother is a sports psychologist and the one mood tip I've heard from him more than any other is "EXERCISE". Apparently exercising releases endorphines and elevates mood, so that's something you may want to try.

My other brother swears up and down a vegitarian diet lightened his mood enormously. I would think it would just add to problems, but he says it helps.

Those are some good suggestions, Coltess, for sure. Especially the exercise part.

I can't tell you how much better I feel about myself and the world around me when I'm exercising regularly as opposed to just coming home, sitting in front of the TV for a few hours, going to bed and then repeating.

I think that you need to kind of take stock of where your'e at right now and what it is that's bringing you down, why those things are bringing you down and what you can do to fix those issues.

If it's a chemical thing in your mind, then perhaps going to see a doctor might help. But before you go down that road, maybe try and see what it is that you can fix in your life and try to fix it.

PS on that: If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to PM me. I've been through some of what you're talking about, so again, feel free to drop me a line.

I go to the gym with my bestfriend.

I play video games (Not as much though, because I get really frustrated when I play them nowadays.)

I go on Twitter and just tweet random stuff.

If I work that day, I'll try to be busy as possible.

I try to hang out with friends as much as I can.

I tried smoking weed again to see if I can forget about the depression, Didn't work out so well.

Sometimes me and a group of friends just go flirt with random girls at the mall, It's pretty fun lol.

Although these are some of the things I do to cope with depression, I never got over depression. Depression is a really hard obstacle to get over. I hope I can get over it when I find that special someone though. Hope this helps though.

Optimistic people are less likely to become depressed. If a plan of yours fails, try to come up with a new one. Be optimistic, be creative and don't give up. There's no reason to give up with your life – there's not much dispute on that. You can also PM me at will regarding this or else.

1.) Your girlfriend should get a job. Double the income, more money you have to spend for a better place to live.

2.) The time you have between 7:01am-9pm should be wasted by something you enjoy doing. I.e. reading a book, listening to music, working out, playing video games.

There's also getting a puppy involved too somewhere.

One person out of the relationship shouldn't be the dominant source of money. Even though I'm currently in the situation, I'm not living with my boyfriend yet due to school. However, once I move in, I need to also make some dough too and not rely on my guy's finances to live the rest of my life happy.

Yeah, I was actually going to say #1 here as well. I wouldn't want you to get in to some argument with your girlfriend, but while I know her art is undoubtedly important, it would probably go a long way in helping you not feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders if she could get some sort of day job.

One of the things I actually do when I'm down is come here.

MKO is my bar! Threads are my beers! lol

In all seriousness, a good way to get rid of the downs is to find a favorite place. Be it a restaurant, a gym, a store, or even just a particular area. Find a place that lifts you up in a great way, and go there. For me, that place is Downtown Chicago. Just being there takes a huge load off of me.

Another way that's helped me get rid of the downs was indulging in comedy, preferably TV shows and comedy specials. Find your favorite sitcom or your favorite comedian, and just watch the hell out of it. The laughter will erase the bad feelings and dispair, even if only for a while.

Above all, the one thing you should always have is your favorite person. The one person that can give you a smile no matter what. When all else fails, your favorite person will still be there. Go to them, and let them give you a smile.


On a extra note, I completely understand someone pursuing their passion, as I am doing that myself. Nevertheless, we all need jobs, especially when we're living with others. Your mate should look into that; I'm sure it'll help the both of you.


I hope this helps.

Ha ha! It's crazy that you mention downtown Chicago as your favorite place. I used to work down there and it was the worst job I've had in my entire life. For two years after I was done with that job, I could barely step foot inside city limits without feeling the stress, anger and frustration well up inside of me.

But no, what you say here is really good (in my humble opinion). Having a place that automatically means less stress, comfort etc is a great way to help when you're down. MKO is one of those places for me as well.

On a side note: Nice to see another Chicagoan on these here boards!

my goodness.. so many good responses!! I never thought anyone would actually listen to what I had to say..

However with all this in mind I can honestly say some of these suggestions will help ... I have been exercising a great deal in more recent years.. I don't think I have ever been so fit in all my life ..as much as I am now..

Really for awhile it was keeping me on a stabble level too...but in more recent days I just find...perhaps..hope is what seems to be my biggest problem.. ya know kinda digging deep and finding that motivation..

Its hard to find considering I do leaned to everything that is happening in my life.. and really thinking over what you guys/girls have told me on here..

Perhaps I do need a place to go too..or a comfort zone as I have read about on here... hehe...

I am not much of a drinker...so perhaps these board would be a good start to ..putting things in prospective..

Hey, I work graveyards too! Thankfully, I'm on the computer most of the night, so I'm allowed to browse when it's not busy. Heck, I'm working now.
I've been in a depressed mood myself, feeling like I'm in a slump, but since I've started hitting the gym 3 times/week and following my old university routine, I've been feeling pretty high and better about myself.
I agree with everyone about talking to your gal about the job. As an artist (actor and writer count), it's important to find a way to make a living. Maybe a part-time job's what she needs.

thank you to everyone.. I don't know if I said that earlier..but thank you all..it really does mean ALOT