If that is the path that both you and the participating females decide to go down. Best of luck. I have juggled women before. No longer, by my own choice. Consent or not, it doesn't fit my moral structure. I would very much like to get married and start a family with one woman for the remainder of my time.

Sure, we all crave multiple people. It would be great to be like that. Peoples past really should not matter, but let us be realistic here. Say you meet that beautiful and smart woman one day. Say she is a virgin? Sure, values say you should be able to throw it all on the table and her say she still loves you. But do you really expect her to believe the first time would be as special to you as it would be for her? What if a close virgin female friend of yours was being oogled by some guy who has been through tons of women? I'd be the first person to call him a "snake" and tell her to stay away, for her own good and the maintaining of her value to her future.

I don't care what personal view or goal clouds that view, it is human nature. It will come up eventually as even the strongest of people have emotion. Say the question comes up to her parents, who are likely old fashioned. It no longer has to do with you and her. But the elephant in the room when her parents know she wasn't your one and only. It then centers her out, with nothing to do with you or your morals.

This is just one scenario. A good rebuttal would be "well if shes the right one, itl all work out". If only we could all live in that clouded world. Natural human instinct will raise question at one point over the coarse of the rest of your lives, regardless of mental position or strength. No amount of philosophical perspective or edgy views of life will ever change that. It is physically part of who we are.

No thanks. I'd rather be morally proud that I have everything to one woman. A true test of dedication and moral strength. If I rifle through 500 women before her. I am the one who wouldn't accept me, much less expect her to.

Again, I respect your decision to choice. I personally strongly disagree, respectively. Best of luck, man.

I think polygamy is completely demeaning to women. The "husband" can sleep with multiple women, but she can only sleep with him? (If she does sleep with another man, then she's labeled as an adulterer or a slut). And she has to share him? F that. I wouldn't share my man.

A woman should be an equal partner in a marriage, not part of a "collection."

Some may look down on polygamy...

I think taking care of 4 families, instead of 1 is awful big a me...

/sarcasm



Ka-Tra

This is the exact kind of misunderstanding I was talking about; people assume polygamy's in favour of only men, but I guess the picture DG1OA paints doesn't make it look any better and just perpetuates the stereotype.
Polygamy isn't defined as a husband with multiple wives, it's a married person with more than one spouse. Despite what is most commonly depicted in the media and in many patriarchal & religious societies, polygamy means that both the husband and the wife can have other spouses. Everyone is sharing everyone!

Tried dating someone who defined herself as polyamorous (she was very specific about differentiating the terms), and found I couldn't deal with it. It works for certain people, not others. I can't devote myself to more than one person.

It ended well however, and we now love each other as friends. The relationship, such as it is, is much better this way.

Are you trying to paint me as sexist? Because I said right in my OP that if I could have more than one girlfriend, then all said girlfriends could also have people other than me. That of course means other men. And I'm not even interested in marriage, I just want to live with one, or many girls of my liking. No need for marriage. It's such a lame concept anyway, but that's another story.

I do wonder if maybe my posts are a little too long for some of the people here, who probably can't remember everything I just said and end up misunderstanding me. Not that I intend to shorten my posts or anything, as I do not cater to halfwits, it's just something I'm curious about.

Call me old-fashoned, but I believe in monogamy and marriage.

Polygamy is controversial chiefly I think because it A. Clashes with western Judeo-Christian ideas of family union as well as B. Has predominantly throughout history been used to subjugate women.
Modern Polyamory does exist but honestly OP, you sound more like you want a harem of girls than you do several wives with several husbands living together.

Wasn't my intention. There's nothing wrong with the length of your initial post, I simply missed the one sentence that mentions you'd be cool with your gals being in other relationships simultaneously with you.

It's kind of easy to miss that sentence given that you only mention your partners being with other partners once, and the post is mostly catered to what you'd do (i.e., be with multiple women). Most people would see the rest of your arguments for polygamy as being for a man's personal gain, not beneficial for everyone involved (assuming there's trust amongst all involved).
People come into a thread like this with that preconceived notion, and accidentally skip the one-liner about how the women in polygamous relationships are allowed to date as well, making them think about harems or other stereotype things that aren't actual polygamy.