Ugh Facebook... When should it be taken seriously and when it shouldnt?
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(Erik) Wrote:I don't know if this post just seems like self absorbent gloating, but I just felt like I had to say that yes it is possible to have a large amount of friends.
I think the point that was being made is that while you can be friendly to a large amount of people, they're not the all type of friend you turn to when you need help. You can have 500 friends, but how many of them would you go to if, lets say you lost a loved one, and just needed morale support, or more to the point how many would show up at your door without needing to be asked first?
A true friend is someone you share your life with and sticks around through the good and the bad . A real friend is someone you can trust your life to, who remembers your birthday(Even if you hate it), who gets to know your family over years of crashing family events, who'd start a fight to stand up for you even if you're not there, and who shows up when you're at your worst without being asked.
While I'm sure you have a large number of friends, I'm sure they're not all going to be there when shit hits the fan. That's the real world version of deleting people off your friend list I guess.
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there are a lot of fucking stupid people on myspace, facebook and twitter. Being too thinned skin and miscommunication are major problems.
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Icebaby Wrote:
There are reasons for Facebook to exist, especially when you're away at school and want to still keep in contact with your friends and family and don't feel like using the phone to call them.
So yes, there are reasons to have a Facebook. Not everyone needs to have one, but it's suggested to have one if you're away at school and don't want to use the cell phone all the time to keep in contact with some people.
Then you can use skype if you really don't feel like using the phone. I mean yes people do have reasons to use Facebook, but for most of the time people use it as a popularity contest to have the most amount of friends. I mean come on, no one has 500 real friends. Most people have like 10 good friends at the most and add family to that number so its all bullshit. Not to mention all the stupid poses everyone does in their pictures lol. Just giving my opinion on this and not to piss anyone off that has a Facebook.kaden Wrote:
There is no reason for Facebook and Twitter and all that other shit to exist, Its all so damn useless.
There is no reason for Facebook and Twitter and all that other shit to exist, Its all so damn useless.
There are reasons for Facebook to exist, especially when you're away at school and want to still keep in contact with your friends and family and don't feel like using the phone to call them.
So yes, there are reasons to have a Facebook. Not everyone needs to have one, but it's suggested to have one if you're away at school and don't want to use the cell phone all the time to keep in contact with some people.
There is skype, but then you have to deal with horrible crappy reception. Not to mention, not everyone has Skype as well.
What's good for me is that both me and my boyfriend are going to spend a day together cleaning the crap out of our Facebook profiles and just keeping it strictly between a few people and us. We don't want a huge group of people.
I used to have 850, and one day I said to myself, "How do I know these people?" Some people friended me becuase I went to their school and never talked to them whatsoever. When I finally realized that what I was doing was wrong I finally changed everything, reduced people and just made my profile more privately.
Though those who have it to friend so many people with no reason or do not know those people... You might want to reconsider. Sure, there are people who do know that many people, and that's quite fine. But if you're just friending people for the hell of it... You might want to think twice before accepting that request.
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Icebaby Wrote:
Now, majority of this country and world has a Facebook, not all but there's quite a few people that has one. I stopped taking Facebook seriously as soon as I entered college. I deleted half of my friends, from 850 to now 450, becuase I realized that half of those people I don't talk to anymore and I don't feel like they need to know my life. I have quite a bit of family as friends and I'm only keeping this for right now due to college.
But a lot of bullshit happened to me because of this damn site. Three good reasons why Facebook has done a lot of crap towards me:
I had my best friend take things out of context to where we're not friends anymore. I asked her a question about the lack of conversation and she took things way out of proportions.
I had a mother lash out at me and thought I insulted her daughter because I critiqued my old high school's band's drumline since I am an alumni/All-Conference percussionist and asked if someone would tell it to the drum captain. (After all, if you were a former drummer and want to help out the old drumline, who do you talk to?)
Last year's roommate threatened me with a knife to the face because she decided to be a dick about some technical difficulties I was having with my account... It got hacked and deleted a few people included her and she took it too personally.
Facebook is also the cause of a lot of firings throughout jobs. Say one thing that people might find offensive, you're gone from that job. A Florida teacher is fired by quoting a bible quote about marriage being between a man and a woman right after the state allowed civil unions to happen there.
Have one too many pictures of you and the famous red cup back when you were in high school, or even when you're at the appropriate age, one picture that makes you look a bit unprofessional you're gone from that job as well.
I feel that this site is just asking for a lot of bad stuff to happen to people, even when they're not asking for it. And my question to you is simply, why should a lot of stuff be taken so seriously? There's certain times when things do need to be taken seriously, and there are other times where it shouldn't. What's the stuff that should be taken seriously and the other part where it shouldn't?
Now, majority of this country and world has a Facebook, not all but there's quite a few people that has one. I stopped taking Facebook seriously as soon as I entered college. I deleted half of my friends, from 850 to now 450, becuase I realized that half of those people I don't talk to anymore and I don't feel like they need to know my life. I have quite a bit of family as friends and I'm only keeping this for right now due to college.
But a lot of bullshit happened to me because of this damn site. Three good reasons why Facebook has done a lot of crap towards me:
I had my best friend take things out of context to where we're not friends anymore. I asked her a question about the lack of conversation and she took things way out of proportions.
I had a mother lash out at me and thought I insulted her daughter because I critiqued my old high school's band's drumline since I am an alumni/All-Conference percussionist and asked if someone would tell it to the drum captain. (After all, if you were a former drummer and want to help out the old drumline, who do you talk to?)
Last year's roommate threatened me with a knife to the face because she decided to be a dick about some technical difficulties I was having with my account... It got hacked and deleted a few people included her and she took it too personally.
Facebook is also the cause of a lot of firings throughout jobs. Say one thing that people might find offensive, you're gone from that job. A Florida teacher is fired by quoting a bible quote about marriage being between a man and a woman right after the state allowed civil unions to happen there.
Have one too many pictures of you and the famous red cup back when you were in high school, or even when you're at the appropriate age, one picture that makes you look a bit unprofessional you're gone from that job as well.
I feel that this site is just asking for a lot of bad stuff to happen to people, even when they're not asking for it. And my question to you is simply, why should a lot of stuff be taken so seriously? There's certain times when things do need to be taken seriously, and there are other times where it shouldn't. What's the stuff that should be taken seriously and the other part where it shouldn't?
Alrighty, here is my two cents on this, both in your case specifically and the over all cases you've brought up:
I am on your facebook, if you click on my facebook you will probably find that I have less than 20 friends on it. That number shrinks for the same reason as yours does. It's a good idea to remove the people you don't care about from your facebook. When I say this don't take me wrong, by care I mean the people that are really just pictures on your profile rather than meaningful friends. As a personal policy, I do not allow family on my facebook either. Too much shit goes down and too much personal drama I discuss on my facebook involves them and this can also be bad, so I don't have family on it.
So for me my personal friendship rules are this facebook wise:
Do we talk regularly and meet in person? yes? you are in. (best friends)
Can I discuss dark things or personal things without unnecessary leakage? yes? you are in. (generally college buddies that really aren't involved in my personal shit)
Are you a person I consider a friend, and would like to be your friend in a face to face manner but cannot because of geographical issues? you are in (that would be you and a very few others Ice.)
your best friend: Communication is essential for lovers and friends. talk, be straight, and always fight for the ones that mean something to you. If you can still contact your old friend I suggest calming her down, try to explain things as best you can and above all when she starts to heighten in anxiety remind her in your calmest possible way to calm down.
Always remember. From the day you are born until the day you die, you can count your true friends on one hand.
you have every right to critique a drum line performance whether or not you are qualified to do so, all that's really needed is a good ear and a good eye. and you were part of the whole thing before. If a mother is butthurt, so what? Now you know how Simon Cowell feels lol.
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Job safety is very easy. Employees have no right to discuss your personal life or view it in the hiring process both morally and legally. Report violators to the authorities and make sure you bring a micro recorder to your interviews as some employers ask for your profile info from you, and to get anywhere in court proof is required.
To prevent this change your security settings. max them out all the way out. No pictures no search let the outside world see *nothing* about your profile. If you want someone on your facebook, add them yourself.
Friends from work? make two facebooks: one is your real one which is the one with maxed out security settings. The other is a fake one you don't even use outside of work. In it include a nice picture of you and basic information. add your work buddies to that facebook and otherwise just don't use the damn thing. Job bullshit solved.
As for most people, things can be taken quite hard.
Myself as example. If you say something mean to me, even if it is slight, and I consider you nice enough to have a spot for you in my list of real friends. I can get fucked up bad. Its not that I want to. I suffer from clinical depression. (a story for another time) and hurting me is like cracking an egg.
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torchia Wrote:
I have to disagree. This man's job one that requires him to be tolerant and unbiased. His right of free speech was forfitted when he became a teacher. If you'd like to discuss such things while in the position of molding young minds, it's best to do so privately to avoid controversey.
But keep in mind: Nothing on the internet is private. Nothing.
devilwithin Wrote:
Even tho I disagree with teacher, I still feel that unfair to fire someone because they don't have same point of view. When it come to job, only question that should come to boss's head "Is this person doing a good job?". Only time you should get fired for point of view is if that view effect that person doing job right.
Icebaby Wrote:
Facebook is also the cause of a lot of firings throughout jobs. Say one thing that people might find offensive, you're gone from that job. A Florida teacher is fired by quoting a bible quote about marriage being between a man and a woman right after the state allowed civil unions to happen there.
Facebook is also the cause of a lot of firings throughout jobs. Say one thing that people might find offensive, you're gone from that job. A Florida teacher is fired by quoting a bible quote about marriage being between a man and a woman right after the state allowed civil unions to happen there.
Even tho I disagree with teacher, I still feel that unfair to fire someone because they don't have same point of view. When it come to job, only question that should come to boss's head "Is this person doing a good job?". Only time you should get fired for point of view is if that view effect that person doing job right.
I have to disagree. This man's job one that requires him to be tolerant and unbiased. His right of free speech was forfitted when he became a teacher. If you'd like to discuss such things while in the position of molding young minds, it's best to do so privately to avoid controversey.
But keep in mind: Nothing on the internet is private. Nothing.
But he did it on facebook and was stupid enough to get caught. He did do it privately but problem with facebook/internet is it easy for people to find out about people. Problem is people are losing their right to free speach, for example: I was told I will lose my job if I don't take down on a picture of me and pals drunk on facebook because it would look bad for company. This hasn't happened to me but problem I have is that comapnys want you represent them 24/7 but that not how life work. You only represent company the time you work for them, outside of work you only represent yourself.
Your right about job requires him to be tolerant and unbiased but only in school. That where I said work and socal life are two different things and should NEVER connect together.
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