i think long distance relationships are a wash. Forget about it. Its not easy, but make up your mind to move on and then fucking do it. What's all the crying you've been doing ever gotten you? Not a goddamn thing. You'll never be the same person that you were before. maybe thats sad or maybe its nothing. grasping for a feeling from the past will fail everytime.

TotalBlackout Wrote: i think long distance relationships are a wash. Forget about it. Its not easy, but make up your mind to move on and then fucking do it. What's all the crying you've been doing ever gotten you? Not a goddamn thing. You'll never be the same person that you were before. maybe thats sad or maybe its nothing. grasping for a feeling from the past will fail everytime.

long distance relationships are fine in the early going, gives you a chance to make you realize if you really love each other. and makes you mis each other more... so when you get together, you'd go all out but eventually, if you learned that you two are meant for each other, you'd want to spend more time with each other.

but keeping distance once in a while is not bad so long as there is no cheating going on...

~IMO~

Some of you MAY remember last July I turned to this forum for some advice and everyone here was more than willing to help (special thanx to MKSECRETS). So I feel I should shed some light on what I've learned from the past year that I spent in hell. First off, I'm sorry to hear about the stress you're feeling. I know you feel like doing nothing more than crying and crawling in a dark hole. But don't! Find a hobby, whatever it takes, try not to choke on it. It doesn't do anything but push you further in the ground. My EX-girlfriend acted pretty much the same way. At first she was all about me...and then she totally would get mad if she even thought I was hinting at her cheating. I'll let you in on something...fear turns into anger. Everytime you fish around looking for reasons, she is ALWAYS going to respond with anger! I'm telling you the truth. I just went through it. The other thing is, stop accussing or fishing for the truth. If you don't trust her...there is NO reason to stay with her...these thoughts will always be with you. The other thing, as tough as it may seem, is to lose the jealousy man. This shows weakness. I WAS REALLY guilty of doing this and all it did was push her farther away. Now, we're not together at all. To me, it sounds like she cares about you...but NO woman wants to be with someone who they have power over. She only has as much power as you give her (i.e. being jealous). It seems like it may be falling apart, and sometimes this is best. I know you're also having feelings about being alone for the rest of your life. THAT'S NOT TRUE!!! Take it from me. I felt the same way. But since I told my EX to take the first train outta my life, I've felt more alive. I can do whatever I want and don't have to feel bad for anything. Life gets better. Do not believe for one second that she is the only one. Once a woman knows that, she'll run with it and they'll begin to branch out (if you know what I mean). Keep your head up, pick up a gee-tar or something to take your mind off this and you'll be fine. And learn from your experiences. I hope this helps.

Sounds like some of the girls I have gotten involved with. Well if she doesn't tell her family she isn't treating you with the respect you deserve... I try not to get caught up in girls that much, but what you need to do is take a deep breath and take a step back and analyze this as if you didn't have this dependency on her. She sounds like she is being a hypocrite... do as I say, not as I do... that is unacceptable in any relationship and is a form of control over you... is she cheating on you? Maybe... it is a very cetain possibility... I don't know the situation so I shouldn't speculate on whether she is or not... trust is a huge issue in the relationship and if you can't trust her after seven months, then after years it will only get worse... I would try to wrok it out, but if she is being unfeeling one moment and feeling the next she has some bi-polar mental problems exactly like two girls I have dated for that long or longer than that and the unfeeling state only gets worse in most cases and nothing you do can make them feel for you... what you do is up to you... but I would ask her what the hell is going on and tell her you will talk to whoever the hell you want to, because you are not her puppet or dog to sit around and wait for her... later