there are nearly 7 billion people in this world, there are millions of people who qualify for each person's love. to believe otherwise is simply delusional. My ex believed in soulmates, she left me for hers. I had to take her to court over it.

I believe in coincidence, not fate.

I do.

I met a girl 5 years ago.

The year after we met we never saw eachother again and I haven't been into anyone else ever since.

Creepy?

To a logical male "I don't believe in soul mate mumbo jumbo" sounds normal. To an emotional woman "I don't believe in soul mate mumbo jumbo" means that you don't love her. And that's why she's flipping out, which is understandable if you can see it from her point of view.

I don't believe in soul mates. I don't even believe in love.

Do I believe in soulmates? No, at least not in the traditional "one soul split into two" type of nonsense you'll find in a Hallmark card. I do however believe in synchronicity to lesser extent in that we play out our own internal process projected externally onto romantic partners when we fail to acknowledge or become aware of said internal process. So, in that sense, it's more about where you are introspectively that dictates who you'll find a deeper connection with. It's not as whimsical as the Hallmark version but is just as profound.

My advice to you (since you indicated her growing upset...even to the point of talking about breaking up) is to ask her how SHE feels about soul mates...and then listen. Ultimately I suspect she's trying to communicate to you that she feels deeply for you (or is starting to) and is questioning if the feeling is reciprocal and has personalized your response. She's likely feeling vulnerable so if you address that with sincerity and compassion you'll get more to the heart of the issue; "How you two feel about one another." Which is what she's really asking.

It's ok to assume some neutrality "I'm not sure if I believe in Soul Mates but I'm sure how I feel about you (insert feelings here...and be genuine about it. It's not about telling her what she wants to here).

After all that then go down on her and give her like 3 solid orgasms. You'll thank me later.

And just be honest. If the emotion is sincere

Love is a many splendored thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love!

This is pretty much it for me.

I guess I'm from a different walk of life then most on thi site (dedicated Christian) So questioning soul mates is indeed questioning the power of God.

Is God not capabple of having a soul mate planned for you? by saying no we are pretty much questioning his power or rather ability.

Regardless i do believe in fate.. a more interesting question is must we marry or be in a relationship with our soul mate?

What about when this happens, and both people have openly stated that they are the others soulmate, and both have agreed.

Then, they get married and have 3 kids.

16 years later, they get a divorce, and one of them, within the course of 1 year, goes off and moves in with another guy and has another kid. They both say they are soulmates.

No.

I do not believe in soulmates.

Sounds like you got caught in a trap. She wasn't asking if you believe in the concept of soulmates, she was asking you if she was your soulmate.


As for my views on the subject, I did at one point. Not that I don't believe in it now, but I feel if there is such a thing as a soulmate I definitively F'ed up, as I have yet to find someone that I have/had as much in common with, or like as much as that one person.

I think a part about soul mates that people never really think about is just because someone is YOUR soul mate doesn't mean the feeling is mutual. Which kinda deflates the whole soul mate idea, to me at least.

But to the OP, you sound like a teenager, yes? If a teenage chick asks you about soul mates ALWAYS say fuck yes you believe in them and that she is yours. Then screw.

I'm not really sure why you quoted me.

Seems that could've been said without the quote.

I did until she was living with another guy....without my knowledge.

I used to, but that was a very different Jerrod back then...
To be honest, I agree with the majority on this. You find someone who is suitable for you at a specific time in your life, and eventually, you either grow together and sync, or you grow apart and find other souls to be with.
To say you only have one soul mate is to say that you won't ever change. The girls I dated 10 years ago are not the same as the ones I date now, because I'm not the same person I was back then, and neither are they. I thought a bunch of them were my soulmates, but it never materialized.
As for your gal bits, definitely talk to her and see if this is something that can be resolved. You don't have to be soulmates to feel strongly for each other. Love does not go hand-in-hand with soulmates.

Quoting you was actually an accident.

Sorry to offend you...?

Not offended.

Just seemed that you were just denouncing MY post when it applied to others as well.

I'm nit-picky like that.

Hard to say anymore. I certainly want to believe.

Oh okay cool.

She most likely took offense because she perhaps views you as her soul mate and was under the impression you didn't feel the same about her, explain your reasoning to her, I would explain that just because you don't believe in soul mates has nothing to do with how you feel about her, something along those lines.

Soul mates have always perplexed me, there are probably thousands of people in this world that fit us like a glove, there are billions of us after all. I don't think that there's just one person on this planet that's just for you, I think all of our happenings are mostly coincidental and it just so happens we find friends and lovers that fit us and make us feel complete.

I dont believe in having a soulmate... i do believe in really strong relationships... but there is no such thing as a single person w who you are meant to be.

In fact, i dont even really believe it is possible to be in love with someone with one person for your entire life.

I don't know this for certain, but I think women are more inclined to have mystical/supernatural beliefs about relationships than men. After all, I rarely, if ever, hear men repeating homilies like "Everything happens for a reason." Personally, I think it's a lot of nonsense. Bad things happen, bad relationships happen, and sometimes they don't have any redemptive value. I think people already know this, but aren't being honest with themselves about it.

That said, I don't know how far into this relationship you are, but if she's gonna blow up over something like belief in soulmates, I wouldn't fight it if she does threaten to leave you; it's a portent of what lies ahead (more trouble). It might be tempting to think it's just a one-off thing, and nothing like it will happen again, but one thing life has taught me is that people's behavior tends to fall into predictable patterns, especially where emotional outbursts are concerned; if it happened once, it'll happen again. Personalities do change, sometimes, somewhat, but it's unknown as to exactly how, and it always takes time.

But maybe I'm reading too much into all of this, and the other posters are right; that she just got upset because she believes you're her soulmate, and the belief is not reciprocated, which is understandable I suppose, especially if she's under 20. Usually what I do when asked if I believe in soulmates by a woman I'm courting (hasn't happened in a long time), is either say something cheesy along the lines of "Well, I didn't, but I do now" (to humorous effect), or I might get all philosophical and say something like "No,we met by chance, which is what makes our relationship precious; the very fact that it could've not happened." Depends entirely on the mood, or the tone of the conversation.

At any rate, it doesn't hurt to tell a white lie once in a while and just say "Uh, yeah, sure," so everyone goes home happy.

I don't believe in soulmates. That there's only one person in the whole world matching you perfectly, as two pieces of the same puzzle? Nope...

Love can be found in many different persons. It's all about common interests, physical attraction, preferences and simply being with someone whose company you enjoy.

There is no such thing as a perfect match when it comes to love. Because nothing is perfect. That might make me sound cynical, but then you get the wrong impression of me. I believe in love, and I am a strong believer in it. But love is not finding "the one", but finding someone who returns that love. To ask for more is to set your standards so high up on a piedestal that it becomes unreachable, and it will only disappoint you in the end.

It's a romantic idea, but it is unrealistic. A Hollywood creation, if you will.

I do believe in soulmates and that I have found mine, but to each his/her own.