Either way, it has no meaning unless you give it one yourself.

I dunno about soulmates. If you mean that there is someone in the world who is absolutely perfect for you, then yeah I believe that. With so many people in the world it has to be true. If you mean someone who you were destined to meet....ehhhh I dunno.

Well I suppose destiny is a real thing. Time is relative right? The future, present and past are all happening at one moment, which must means the future is already determined. So I guess you can say you're destined to meet your soulmate.

Really, I don't understand why its important to some people. Live, love, laugh

Song references... really?!

Do you guys really believe that there are millions or thousands of perfect matches? Because I don't. Maybe I am too picky. I might be able to extend my disbelief into saying that there are a couple of hundred people out there you are greatly compatible with, but I don't think the number goes much higher than that. Sure there are billions of people in the world, but are you really going to be compatible with people from other cultures? And I mean, like native to other cultures. Not assimilated into our home culture. Like North Korea? Somalians? The Chinese? Indians? I don't necessarily believe that opposites attract, especially not for a long term relationship. I think we're drawn to people we have proximity to. Whether it be growing up in the same area, sharing a socioeconomic background, or even the same sort of education, etc.

Maybe I can't generalize. We're all different. And we all have different tastes. Maybe we're drawn to people who 'complete' us. Maybe we're not. I guess my problem is that I all ready feel complete on my own. I feel like when I'm in a serious long-term relationship, I can imagine my life with that person forever. But I can also imagine being alone, too.

I guess that's why I'm always questioning what this love thing is. I can always imagine my life without a significant other. Maybe I haven't found the one.

Thanks for all the input, guys. But now I have a better question:

Best way to get over an ex? How do I mend a broken heart in a way which doesn't not involve booze and quaaludes?

Like all grief inducing scenarios in life, keep busy, laugh often, don't dwell on the problems too much, use your new free time to devote to new hobies, like taking up drawing or something you found enjoyable that you didn't get to do much while dating.

Take a martial arts class, boxing, or other sport(or even if you're not angry and just sad, these work outs can help you focus on something else and relieve stress.


It's all about keeping busy and surrounding yourself with the support of people close to you.

Espio's got you covered. Also, if it makes it any easier, anybody who's going to break up with you over having a different opinion about spirituality is not worth your time, nor your tears.

Don't tell me you broke up over this.

I don't believe in souls.

So soul mates is equally unbelievable to me.

I do, however, believe that you can find someone who fits your ideals if you're willing to negotiate on which ideals matter most.

No one is perfect.

I used to believe in it before I was married.

Then I got married.

I thought he was the one, and I kept telling myself that entire time. I was dead wrong. I now wonder that if it was that easy to be wrong about having found my true love, how will I ever really know that I've found it, if I ever do?

Weed and Xanax.

Nah only teasing. Espio's advice is solid as it will keep you from dwelling on the past while redirecting your focus on the present/future. As far as support goes with the pain of a breakup...I'd need more details (Such as how is it impacting your life now? Are you boozing it up hardcore? What about the breakup do you keep ruminating over?) but if it's severe you could always seek a counselor if you have access to cheap/free mental health support.

I know it won't make you feel any better, but if she left you over something as trivial as this, then she wasn't good for you.

About believing in soulmates, I believe two people can be compatible to the point of being together their whole life. But I don't think destiny plays any part on that.

This and some other stuff too.

Thanks everyone for the suggestions. Very helpful.

When lifes a biznotch, just come to MKO.

After the break up with this girl i was really close and i thought she was my soulmate no i dont. Soulmates arent real there in dreams and in womens stuff but not irl what happens you just find someone who you could be with for the rest of your life and you just treat them nice thats all it is (i belive in love just not soulmates).