Sorry to say Jason needs an asswhoppin and when ur done tell her to get outta ur life. Even if she ain't with him (but sounds like it) it sounds like it's falling apart, sorry and good luck.

Bro, if you want some italian mobster to whack him just call me , nah, being serious you should not worry about that bro we're to young to stick that hard on rtelationships, i mean someone once told me that when a guy doubts about if the gf is cheating generally she is, but well just try to chill out, talk the things out and tell her to be serious and honest.

BTW i love that girl jessica i just met in NJ *joking*

Tazer Jason in his face in front of his friends. That's what I would do.

Kick Jason's ass (or get me to ;-D) then tell her to fuck off and call her a dirty slut.

Redline Wrote: Kick Jason's ass (or get me to ;-D) then tell her to fuck off and call her a dirty slut.

hahahahaha lol, you sure are a casanova bro, i'll tell my sister to go out with ya

Dude coming here asking for advise may not be the best thing to do. It sounds like you don't trust your girlfriend, but has she ever before given you a reason not to trust her. Just because she has a guy friend at work doesn't mean she's going to mess around with him. What you should do in my opinion ask her if the four of you can all go out (You , Jessica, Jason, and his pregnant fiancee). This way you can meet the guy yourself. Also sit down and talk to her man, don't acuse her of anything, just tell her how you feel.

Like I said though, this might not be the place for advise. We don't know you or your gf, so getting advise from us might not be the best thing. I only said what I would do in your situation, but I could be wrong. I hope everything turns out for the better for you.

Thanks alot ,

Yeah one time she did give me a reason not to trust her cause she lied about hanging out with her ex boyfriend,and she lied about only have sex with 1 guy and it turned out to be 2 including that ex bf she lied about hanging out with.Now I didnt have a problem with her talking to other guys or whatnot up til that point.I am not to sure what to really think,anytime i ask her about any of this,she hangs up on me or starts going off on me.And if I try to tell her if it was the other way around and stuff,she would still yell and scream and sometimes hang up on me.Given the point now that it is almost 1 and still havent heard from her so I am tring to see what she saids when or if she calls me tonight.

Sometimes,i end up crying in the middle of the night cause i miss her and she acts like she doesnt care or that is how i take it.Sometimes also,I end up crowling into a ball shape and lay there depressed cause i dont really have anyone to talk to about it I am just really so sad,this makes me feel like crying now,cause it hurts so very much.

Bro, you really sound bad, i think you're putting your confidence and selfsteem on her, and that's way wrong, your selfsteem and security should never be in other hand than yours whatsoever. You've gotta work out your issues before trying to work out issues of couple. I hope you find the solutions in your mind and in a mature way, don't fuck up your life becuz of another person, you and your family are the most important ppl in your life, try to look out for you first my depressed brutha. Peace Out

Of all the years I've been here, that one of the only things that has made me genuinely sad whilst reading.

sonicherosfan Wrote: Sometimes,i end up crying in the middle of the night cause i miss her and she acts like she doesnt care or that is how i take it.Sometimes also,I end up crowling into a ball shape and lay there depressed cause i dont really have anyone to talk to about it I am just really so sad,this makes me feel like crying now,cause it hurts so very much.

Kick her Cheating *** on the curb and make Jason Disappear(if you know what i mean), and if you dont want to do that then just talk to her about it and if you think she is lying Tell her how you feel and if you have already done that then . What I would Do (bang bang bang bang) make her disappear as well. If I made no sense forgive Me.


By the Way what is her Job??????

she works at red lobster in new jersey,u know what hurts me more,she makes me happy but she doesnt tell anyone in her family that her and i are going out.This doesnt make sense to me anymore that when i came and saw her,she spent over or close to 1000 dollars on me,(charged it on credit cards)but still.And yet she is being like this to me.I dont know what to do,Thanks for replying everyone its just sad to think that she might go off and have sex with some other guy and that hurts me to cause if it doesnt benefit her then its like wrong what i am doing.SO SAD :~(

crying now,

Once again I really feel for ya man, I wish there was something more I could do or say...........Hey I live in Jersey, if she lives in the Jersey City area you could send me to spy on her. (obviously a joke to at least get you to crack a smile)

Just follow her for a few nights to see where she goes. Or hire a PI if you have the money(i would just follow her)

bro just chill out and try to see how much you mean for yourself and how many ppl care for you and how important you are for them, relax a lil and try to get some counseling man, we might tell you good stuff but we're no therapist or stuff. *Wishes the best of lucks*

blade-tsung Wrote: Sorry to say Jason needs an asswhoppin

Okay...well....
( sighs )
I dunno if I'm gonna be wrong about this or not...but anyway...
You should probably ask Jason what he is doing to her. If he says anything that might indicate Jessica and Jason are more than friends, confront Jessica and tell her what Jason said.
I dunno. I didn't read the whole thread, plus, I'm only 12, so I don't know much about love lives.
EDIT: Crap, I blew it already, they're both in New Jersey...aahh, nevermind.

homeboy, first off it might seem like your overreacting a bit, but then i see the part where you were saying she gets pissed when you ask certain questions like when its towards this jason guy, look i can tell you rght now, shes pobly fucking him or someting else, i hate to be the one that breaks it to you like that.

the main reason i am saying that is because awhile ago, before i started only looking for one thing, i actually "was" in love with a girl once, and it was special, i mean everytime i kissed her it was new, then like wat is hapening with you, other guys began to come into the picture, and when would ask about them, she would get pissed, threaten to hang up the phone, not go out with me, etc...point is that when she can do things and you cant, shes cheating, besides you should never let it get to the point where she is callng the shots, love her, listen to her and honor her, but never let her call the shots, which is what it seems like she is doing now.

point is you need to strap on pair of balls and let her know whats up, it will save you alot of heartache, if she cant understand that, then your love was an illusion,cus tru love does help you get thru everything, another thing about love, is that its hard, if it was easy no one woud ever break up, so you cant think of what you would do with out her. you got to think if she is good for you, all i can say is goodluck, but it truly does sound like its falling apart.

my deepest sympathies.

Here are two emails from her,see if u can tell the difference,


whats wrong with ur dog? i just hate it when i tell u what happened and
u still go on and on about it. u said u would call me blah blah blah ..
its frustrating beyond belief. and u do not need to hang up on me
everytime u get annoyed. i get annoyed all the time but i dont hang up the
phone .. stop acting like a baby. i understand that u have "other
things" on ur mind.. whatever that is no reason to act like a little brat. im
not calling u names or being nasty im just saying..
~jess

josh. hey listen i am really sorry about earlier. the second time u called i didnt mean to hang up on u, my grandma was on the other line yelling at my mom about me breaking her hallway light. my cousin was over- acting like an asshole, nicholas was damn near pulling down our friggin tree.. very stressful-- so i left to go bring him home and then i stopped at my friend jenn's house to say bye to her parents, they moved to nevada but came back to get the rest of their stuff. im not asking you to believe me because i know you have more than enough reason not to. i just wanted to email you- even though u told me not to contact you in any way shape or form- b/c i feel like i need to. i didnt have my cell phone with me so thats why i never answered it. i am really sorry. i was talking to my friends mom about you actually. but if you ever decide to talk to me again i guess i'll tell u more later. u can't beleive that i have a bf or that im cheating on u.. i'm not. i wouldn't tell u all the things i tell you, i wouldn't offer to pay for your bus ticket to see me, and i certainly wouldnt throw almost $800 out the window on a cell phone bill if i was just "messing with your head". i know this sounds like a bunch of crap.. but its not. even if being my boyfriend is too stressful for you, please at least call me back as a friend. i dont want you to feel that i constantly lie to you, even if it does seem that way. i dont want to break up with you, but i guess i understand if thats what you want.. but try to give me the benefit of the doubt- please. i care alot about you josh, i honestly do. i know that i lied to you and i hurt you. i am so sorry. hope to talk to you soon.
~jessica


actually heres another one to, hehe. come online. love you! ~jess

Dude you've gotta chill out.

........

Crying over girls isn't weak. It would most likely show that you are a sensitive person, that's all.

The_Cold_Kombatant Wrote: You can get pissed and confused but never cry over a chick. It shows that you are weak.

Hyuga Wrote: Of all the years I've been here, that one of the only things that has made me genuinely sad whilst reading.

What about the time I confessed to you the reason why I got a sex-change operation??


Anyways, lemme give it to you straight, Sonicherosfan, seeing as how I've been in your shoes more than once.

First of all, I wouldn't automatically assume that she's cheating on you...but I wouldn't assume she isn't, either. With girls (and with EVERYBODY, to be honest), you should never trust 'em 100%. ALWAYS leave some room for whatever doubts you may have.

Second, this crap about you not being able to have female friends while she can have male friends is total crap and one of the biggest tricks in the female book. Don't let her control you like that, and trust me, that exact problem was one of the main reasons my last serious relationship ended.

Another thing, whether it's you doubting whether or not she's cheating on you or something else...simply ask her. The answer she gives (more importantly, the WAY in which she gives it to you) should give you the answer you need.

Finally, it is sad that you cry at night 'cause you miss her so much. But you wanna know something? As cliche as it sounds, there truly are other fish in the sea. If things don't work out with her, you'll eventually find someone else. I hate it when people say "My girlfriend is the most important thing in my life", 'cause it ain't true (and trust me, if anybody should know this, it's me, 'cause I've made that idiotic comment many times).

I sometimes look for solace or answers in the lyrics of certain songs, so lemme give you a key part of a Nelly Furtado song:

"'Cause this life is too short, to live it just for you."

No girl is worthy of any man sacrificing everything just for her.

Dude, I think you might be getting ahead of yourself. Like I said before, I don't know you or your situation as clearly as I would like to, but she does sound sincere. I really think you should trust her a little more. She may have done fucked up things in the past that she may not be proud of, but that shouldn't affect how you both feel for each other. Here's one last peice of advise that might make you both feel better. Do something big and romantic for her. I don't know what you both like, but surprise her at work and take her out somewhere whenever you get the chance. If not that, actually write her a letter. Write it with paper and pen(much more personal than e-mail or typed) and tell her how you feel about her. She may not be cheating on you, but if you keep sulking she may start looking around. I know these sound really corney but they do really help. I'm a hopeless romantic and that's why I'm offering these. It does sound like you both need alone time together, without the outside world interupting....I just finished watching "Chasing Amy" (a movie you might want to watch right about now) earlier and this whole thread just feels like deja voo. Once again I hope it all works for the better.

Whether she's cheating or not, there seems to be some major trust issues here. I would just end the relationship. She's just going to cause you pain until her departure. Find a girl who you won't have to love at a distance.