I just wanted to say that when someone that you love breaks your heart. By dumping you, cheating on you, etc. It's the worst feeling ever.
I was cheated on by a guy like over a year ago. Its the worst pain ever. I rather have 100 paper cuts on my body thea go through a heart break. It's horrible.

Getting dumped is pretty bad. I got dumped over a year ago, back then I was a mess. And every single thing reminded me of her. It was pretty bad. But after a while I started feeling less terrible as the days went by. Eventually I felt normal again.

I still talk to my ex every now and again. We remain friends to this day. She's just the kind of person I could never have hatred for. But now I have my eyes on somebody else.

Her name is Heather.

Thanks! I'm happy that you have the one girl that you can see yourself with! What's her name?

Her name is Brittany, but I have other names for her since my sister's name is the same.

Interesting factoid: there have been two other Brittany in my love life before her. One lived in Florida, was 2 years younger than me and was quite charming, but kinda vapid. The other lived in LA, was (is?) a Blood, a lesbian and somehow came to fall for me. I'm awesome.

YES! THAT'S what I'm talkin' 'bout!

I'm giving up on finding love for a while.

"A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired."

I am always the friend.

Women seem to love douchebags, so what exactly was Johnny Bravo doing wrong?

On a serious note, I think Heather is seeing someone. So there goes that.

I'd rant about my love life, but I haven't had one in over a year so... Huh, guess that counts, eh? Oi, I need some action, or at least come some cuddles...

Come cuddles?

Anywho, not every woman wants a douchebag. Or maybe I'm just lucky.

I still have feelings for the one that got away, I see her regularly which is probably why those feelings don't go away like they have with other girls.

I've been with plenty of other girls since her but no ones made me as happy as she did, I have a decent social life and most nights out I can pull a hottie but I'm never really satisfied with it :(

Well, the guy I liked pretty much ignores me now. No clue why and I can't figure out how he went from being super enthusiastic about meeting up for a date to just completely ignoring me. A little bit crushed, to be perfectly honest with you.

So now, I'll resort back to my two true loves: Vodka and Meaningless Random Sex.

Said no girl ever.

Ahh, Christ... *Edits*
I saw a gal while doing an improv workshop that reminded me of my own "one that got away" and what she'd look like if she was in her 40s. I sent her a quick message about it...

Her reply was pretty cool too...

I think I understand why I think so highly of her's because when we first met, we had instant physical attraction. We chilled, we cuddled, I gave her some kisses, but she'd never let me kiss her lips or go further than cuddling and kissing her neck... I sort of feel like we have something unfinished because she almost never had time to hang out, but the 5 times that we did, even if it was a brief meeting over the span of 5 years was always like she held back. Heck one time, after not seeing each other for over a year, we got close held hands, talked, and as we were leaving for our respective classes, she wouldn't let my hand go. It was kind of sweet.

I don't know what my problem is when it comes to meeting women. (Women I'd like to date) I have no problem talking to women but it when it comes to meeting someone I could see myself with it's just crazy how I can't say hi.

All these variables pop into my head like (How old is she? Too young or too old? What if she's taken? What if she's not my type?)

For once I wish I didn't over think things.

I feel ya, Lao.

In my experience, whenever I get the courage to speak to local women, they are either a) taken, b) not interested or c) not interested and thus proceeds to tell me she's taken.

I have horrible luck locally, but online, you're forced to get to know the person, only allowed judgement by a picture, posts, and typing ability.

Ah- the Friend Zone: a bane on all man's existence. But why do we remain in the zone?
Because we never try to break that barrier.

I did something apparently frowned upon when I told my girl I like her, but didn't ask her out then. Still, that brought a connection between us more than ever possible had I not. I made our friendship stronger, and it grew into a mutual feeling between us I had thought would never happen. But- it happened. Sure- it's not an actual "relationship", but it's a friendship that says she feels for me the way I do of her. Possibly- it may last.
The Friend Zone, it's just them not knowing their true feelings for you. Let them know, and they'll come to their realization.

Yeah, to avoid the friend zone, you gotta make that move when you both feel there's a moment going on where you both may end up touching genitals.

I can't believe I have been with my perfect girl for almost 7 years now. Time really does go by fast. I'm just happy to have her every day of my life. To this day, I don't know what she sees in me, she is wayyyy out of my league. But hey, I did (and continue) to do something right, I guess. She still sweeps me off my feet every day. I'm honored to be able to call her mine.

You bastard. Your happiness angers me!

Nah, good on you for being with someone you're genuinely in like/love with. Moreso since you feel you don't equate, but leagues are a figment of the societal imagination. You (or rather no one) can control who they fall for.

A bud of mine could possibly be in love and he admits that she isn't the most attractive woman he has been with.

Brittany has withdrawn from society (apparently) and there's nothing I can do about it.

The girl I thought I'd be dating hit my phone to warn me that she was at a place I planned to be. Thanks for the heads up; I'm home now.

It's crushing my soul not being able to comfort, let alone talk to, the woman I love and I get a heads up text from someone who hasn't bothered to hang out with me in almost a year.

I'm gonna get potted and probably kick zombies.

If anyone would, could you please attempt to brighten my spirits.

Thanks.

I'd figured I'd chat in here about my love...

Well, I'm sure this site was well aware I had a boyfriend for the last three years. All was fine until he decided to get a full-time job as a teacher. He began to change. You see, both of us come from different families. His parents were divorced, mine aren't. His father remarried a millionaire so he's a snob and acted well upon that. I'm from a lower middle class family. I'm real close with my family, he was never. He disliked that to a point where he was trying to get me to become more distant with my family. He succeeded in distancing myself from my friends...

We were having issues, a lot of issues, mainly every other month. We'd get close to each other where we would actually be comfortable talking about getting married and such, but then he would back away from it. If it's an uncomfortable topic then stop bringing it up with me.

The one thing that was really an issue was just how different we were. The phrase "opposites attract" was something I thought was occurring in my relationship, but the last year really started to show that this wasn't working out. He would always prep me before talking to his parents, mostly his father. He would always put me down, literally insult me in front of people and just didn't care. I had some syncopal episodes that he didn't take seriously, and mind you, some of them were pretty serious.

When he decided that we needed to end our relationship, he did it in the most cowardly way. I was unhappy with the relationship for the longest time, but I came to the conclusion that I just sucked it up and went with it and see how much I can last before saying something. I guess I was "in love" with just being someone rather than being "in lover" with him. He had so many reasons why he wanted to end things, I really can't list them, but no matter what the reason was, I say he's a coward. To wait for me to go back home to my dorm where I'm by myself, no friends in sight, and call me several hours later telling me that there's issues that cannot be fixed between us was really a low blow to me. And then to bitch at me several days later on Facebook about how I was more of a pain to deal with and that I'm constantly sick drew me even more into this mood where I just wanted to slap the living daylights out of him.

However, the biggest upsetting thing to come out of him was when he wrote to me on how I was so different from his friends. To basically put our relationship in perspective, this guy was trying to change me from the start. To distant me from my life to be like him and his friends. I'm sorry, but when you're in love, you're in love with the person on who they are, not someone you're trying to change them into. I took so much shit from this guy, people were stunned, literally stunned at how long I managed to last with him. Now, everyone is telling me their true colors about him and well... I don't think I've ever gave my best friend that long of a hug after reconnecting with her.

Now, I managed to do something different. I actually tried online dating and I managed to find someone. He's really sweet, he's a nerd like me... He's just really fucking sweet, and he already asked me to be his girlfriend. I'm gonna take it slow, and hope that I don't get hurt again.

Because really... my ex... no matter how many times he told me I am a phenomenal girl, he broke my heart, brought down my confidence, and made me feel like a miserable piece of shit. I will feel sorry for the next girl he falls for... but yet again, I won't because I don't care about him anymore. Really, I'm going to sell his necklace that he got me, put all of the stuff from him in a box and never look at it again, I've already banned him from Facebook, deleted him from my phone...

The only thing I won't sell is my damn mini iPad (You really think I'm gonna sell that?) Good thing he didn't get it engraved, that's all I can say.

(@ Icebaby)

Hm. This guy, he hurt you. He did everything he could to make ehim love you, but he was trying to change you.

News flash to any of us guys who try to change a girl- if you do, you're no better than this guy. He had to have been a major idiot to try to do something so vile and evil, and I think that IB has the fundamental right to just straight up track him down and kick him in his freakin' blass. Twice. And a third time. Over and over again until he coughs them up. Those guys are pretty much abusing the women they claim to love, and just doing that crap makes everyone hate you.

Ice, really, go find this guy and hit him in the nuts enought times to prevent him from ever having children. He'd probably abuse them, too.