For a while I really wanted to, but then I realized that he's not worth even a middle finger. All he needs to remember is that he ruined basically the best thing that ever came into his life. I couldn't tell you how much I tried to make this relationship seem so much fun, I wanted people to be jealous of how close we were and how much excitement there was.

I will say this, the guy told me that one of his reasons for breaking up was that for the last six years, he was in a constant relationship with someone. He wanted to live a single life for a long time. And a week ago when I decided to delete him from Facebook, I saw that he updated his profile with a picture of him and, get this, an ex of his with her laying her head on his shoulder.

I guess that long time meant five months?

But really, while I'm with you about kicking him in the nuts, it's just he's not worthy enough for my foot to hurt his little manhood. Sorry, I had to go there.

Plus, he's an hour and a half away from me, I think the only time we would ever bump into each other is if I traveled around that area because knowing him, he wouldn't come near me where he calls it the "ghettovile." That is just a steak in the heart for me.

But for any guy here, please do keep in mind, if you're going to fall in love with a girl, you love her for who she is (or if you're into the same sex, you love him for who he is) and vice versa. You don't change them because you want them to fit in with your group or prep them before you let them meet your parents. You just care for them.

Because who I'm seeing now... if the rain didn't ruined our first date, I think I would have fainted with how dreamy it was... To put him in perspective, he has yet to let me open the car door for myself on the passenger side. THAT just stunned me when he opened the car door for me..

The only time I was chivalrous with a woman was with my wallet.

I can feel myself getting worse, always looking to numb myself to some degree in a futile attempt to escape my thoughts, unable to hold onto happiness after a good day.

I wish I knew what to do. Nothing is keeping me going right now.

Tonight is going to be awkward as hell. Today is my birthday and the girl who I'm pretty sure I fucking fell in love with is taking me out to dinner...problem is I got friend zoned pretty damn quick after waiting a month to tell her how I felt. Honestly girls think I'm kinda an asshole now, but I'd rather not get stuck in the friend-zone every damn time.

Well this morning I'm gonna ask a chick out who works at the chiropractor. She's gorgeous and I know she's into me but the kicker is that she has a boyfriend so idk how it's gonna work. I'll let y'all know how big a Fail this will be. I will go in with a positive attitude though.

As for my love life it honestly sucks. The only girl I ever loved left me several years ago to go be closer to her family. Latinas need their family a lot more than us white people do.

One night stands are fucking atrocious. The girls either won't leave my house, or they want to tell me they are pregnant soon after, the girls who claim they will kill themselves if you start ignoring them, or they want to throw "I love you" out of nowhere. I can't deal with that shit.

My last girl was somewhat of a celebrity. She sent me some... lets just say awesome photos of herself and I made the joke that I was gonna use one of them on twitter for #womancrushwednesday. She got super offended and won't talk to me at all anymore. So that's that.

^ You don't want to go after someone who's taken. Trust me, it don't end well.

Man, so much doom and gloom in this thread. Sorry to hear that Cupid is being a collective dick to everyone. While it might seem like a generic thing to say, time really does help heal all wounds. I remember my first serious relationship in my early twenties and how much I thought I loved this woman and now...I can barely remember her. Funny how that works out.

Hoping you guys find what you're looking for. Also Icebaby, don't sweat the ex, you'll find better in no time.

That sounds kind of sad.

At first glance it might but, she really was bad news. Taught me a lot about myself and what I value in a relationship though for sure. Each relationship I found does that if you pay attention. It sort of holds a mirror up to yourself so you getter a better sense of who you are. I can't complain though, I've been in a loving relationship for the past 2 and a half years.

That's understandable then.

Aww thanks for that. I acutally did, we've been dating for four weeks now and he couldn't be any sweeter...

He called me a nugget.

But for the gloomy doom stuff, it's kinda sad that a lot of you guys, including me, have been through tough times with people... There will be one day where you just catch the right person in a way and just go on from there. There's hope, I always say that.

I know it usually doesn't end well but the good ones are always taken and its not like she has a ring on her finger which I noticed today were extremely long. She's 6'1". Anyway if I have to steal a good one I will. I also pussed out today and didn't ask her out because she was working the desk and I didn't want to embarrass her around her coworkers so maybe I'll try again later.

You should friend her first.

That's how I'm gonna present it to her. Go out as friends. Then when I drop her off scream through my car window "HEY BITCH THIS WAS A DATE" lol

If you don't know her boyfriend and she's flirting back then I say go for it. Bro code only applies to friends and people you know. Awesome! While I've never called someone a nugget (that I can recall) sounds like it's going well so far. Glad to hear.

I'm feeling moderately better. Thanks for the support, guys. :-/

(Seriously though, I'm not upset at any of you.)

Cut back on the smoking / drinking if you're self-medicating, and maybe seek counseling if you're still depressed?

EDIT: I just went back and read some of your posts in this thread about this Brittany woman so I'm not sure if you're still struggling with that. Good luck though for sure.

She's the only factor. I haven't been drinking much and smoking has seemingly been relegated to group functions for now.

These two things are probably helping. Now I need the last piece to feel far better...

Funny moment yesterday.

I'm working out at the gym. I get on the elliptical, and maybe 2 machines down there's this girl. About 5'4, Light brown hair, Average, Hispanic girl. I glance over in her direction. I look again and some guy next to her gave me this look, like he wanted to kick my ass. He might have been her boyfriend or a relative. Either way, the guy was not looking happy with me.

Now mind you, I merely glanced in her direction. I wasn't checking her out. And yet this guy was ready to kill me. So you know what I did?

I stared right at her ass. Just to spite that scumbag. He didn't do a damn thing either.

I couldn't agree more. I don't believe in getting involved with someone unless unless you can look past their flaws and love them regardless.

It sucks things turned out the way they did with your ex, but it sounds like things are turning out good with your new BF, I wish you all the best.


As for my love life, there still isn't one. Not that I haven't been looking, but part of the reason is I just haven't really met anyone that interests me. I guess, there was maybe one or two opportunities over the past few years, but I just never acted on it. They where one time chances and I just read things wrong I guess.

It also doesn't help that I have a number of single friends, who always seem to be competing over the same girls. The other reason I guess I'm hesitant about getting involved with anyone is that there are some financial/family issues I'm dealing with. I don't want to get into them, but there not something I would want to drag someone into.

That, mt friend, is pure awesomeness.

So, still no word on my chances, considering she lost her only means of talking to me- her phone. As a result, I haven't seen or spoken to her in an entire month.
It's honestly eating at me from the inside-out.

You know, it's funny. Though I'd enjoy a relationship, I tend to suppress both romantic and physical attractions for two reasons; the first being simply because I don't know how to act on them. I could give a speech to the whole of the world and not feel an ounce of fear, but put me in a room with an attractive girl and I couldn't tell you my name. I stiffen up, act rather cold and uncaring; but that's the facade I naturally put on. The second reason is that I don't think I'm at a point in my life where I can make time for those sorts of things. I'm trying to graduate early, and most of my time is consumed with studies.

Now, this is the funniness I mentioned earlier. Once a year, like clockwork, those emotions seep up to the surface. I'm sure it's got something to do with down-time, because this always happens at the beginning of Summer break.

It starts with dreams -not necessarily sex dreams- more dreams of love, romance, a family, children. Then I notice I've got a much more difficult time suppressing my libido; at times I find myself staring, leering, turning as an attractive girl walks by -actions I refrain from 99% of the time.

Then, after a week or two, things go back to normal. I can control myself a little better, the dreams subside, and I go about my normal life for another year.

This has been happening every year since 8th grade, so...6 years now?

@coltess:


Just sounds like social awkwardness / nerves. You'll start coming out of your shell when you're ready. Why "repress" as you call it though? Why not take a chance on someone?

Well, It's weird, I fear and desire not having control at the same time. That's really what gets me. If I let someone in, they have a power over me- that's something I've tried so hard to avoid. On the same token, sometimes I want not to be alone, and to be able and accept the chaotic whims of life. But I have plans, plans that I don't want or at least think I don't want interrupted.

I've dated before, and really I loved it; I was drunk on it. I love romance, I love caring for someone, I love someone caring for me (family aside). But the rest of me says no- too dangerous, it will interfere, it will break you, it will doom you, you might wind up stuck in mediocrity.

I've got some issues.

To be fair, that could just as easily happen without being in a relationship.